Time after time, I’m amazed by how I can find the answer to just about any question in the bible – even dating advice for men. King Solomon is said to have been the wisest man to ever walk the earth. During his reign as king of Jerusalem, both men and women came from all corners of the world to witness his wisdom in action first hand. But just as Solomon is remembered for his divine wisdom, he’s also infamously known for his indiscretions with women — having 700 wives and 300 concubines.
While many people like to use his life and shortcomings as an example of what not to do, I found many of his small proverbs and wise sayings to be very helpful in regards to what a man should do in the dating world, especially during today’s fickle time. But before I outline the scriptures, let’s first dig a little bit deeper into Solomon.
Solomon was the perfect example of what it means to be a Philogynyst; which is a person who loves or has a fondness for women. He references women more than any other man in the bible. Not only does he reference them, he even wrote a chapter in Proverbs about what it means to be a virtuous woman (Proverbs 31) — and men think it’s not cool to be in touch with their feminine side. But wait, there’s more. Solomon also wrote a full book of erotic poems (Song of Solomon) to his soon to be wife, full of amorous compliments and intimate whispers.
With the combination of Solomon being the wisest man on earth, combined with his knowledge and love for women, I think it’s safe to call him the “Biblical Hitch” of his time. So I’ve gathered a list of Solomon’s wisest gems, and interpreted them to fit today’s lingo as if they came straight from the Biblical Hitch, himself.
Warning:I’m not trying to play scripture interpretation wars here. I’m simply saying, for one second, read these words as if Solomon is indeed the “Biblical Hitch” talking to men of the 21stcentury about how dating and attraction actually works.
Proverbs 27:5 NLT — An open rebuke is better than hidden love!
Go for it. It’s better to be rejected by her and move on with your life than to sit around wondering what could be. If you like her, face the fear that rejection is possible, but so is capturing the heart of the woman of your dreams.
Ecclesiates 11:2 NLT — But divide your investments among many places, for you do not know what risks might lie ahead.
I think it’s safe to conclude that dating is, indeed, an investment. Many men put all of their eggs into one basket, and when it fails, they’re upset. This spoke to me. While I do believe in true love, I also believe that love is a numbers game. Every woman that you like won’t like you. And every woman that likes you, you may not be into. The key is to keep playing the game until you find someone whom you share mutual feelings with.
Ecclesiastes 8:14 NLT — And this is not all that is meaningless in our world. In this life, good people are often treated as though they were wicked, and wicked people are often treated as though they were good. This is so meaningless!
Do nice guys finish last? Well, according to the wisest man to ever walk the earth, it’s looking like they do. Need we elaborate on this topic anymore? I think we can finally put this debate to rest. But that’s your call. Not to call the so-called bad boys “wicked,” but I think we all get what Solomon is saying.
Ecclesiastes 7:28 NLT—Though I have searched repeatedly, I have not found what I was looking for. Only one out of a thousand men is virtuous, but not one woman!
Wait! How is it possible that Solomon says this when he wrote the chapter on what it means to be a “virtuous woman”? Obviously, between the time he wrote Proverbs 31 and Song of Solomon (the beginning and middle of his reign), to when he wrote Ecclesiastes 7:28 (the end of his reign), he experienced a few bad apples. But I don’t believe for one second that he’s saying men or women aren’t virtuous. I think the bigger picture here is that good people are hard to find and when you have someone good in your life, do everything in your power to keep them happy.
Ecclesiastes 7:16— So don’t be too good or too wise! Why destroy yourself?
Is it me, or do nice guys seem to have a sense of entitlement to certain women because they’re, I don’t know, NICE? Here Solomon is speaking of balance. There’s no way any man can be perfect and expect to live every day without making a mistake. To do so would be pure foolishness. So accept that we’re imperfectly made humans, and always try to make the best decisions. But when you fail, man up to your actions and keep moving forward.
Ecclesiastes 9:9 NLT — Live happily with the woman you love through all the meaningless days of life that God has given you under the sun. The wife God gives you is your reward for all your earthly toil.
Although many things changed about the way Solomon saw the world, the one thing that stayed consistent in his teachings was how much of a blessing it is to share your life with the woman you love. Solomon says she’s a gift from God. Everything that man has to endure here on Earth is worth it because the woman makes the burden easier to handle.
Now here is the greatest scripture pairing I’ve found in the entire bible, as it comes from the two most powerful men in the entire book.
Proverbs 18:22 – The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the Lord.
In basketball, this scripture would be the alley hoop pass from Solomon.
Matthew 7:7 — Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you.
And this would be the tomahawk slam-dunk by Jesus. Assist goes to Solomon.
Key phrases – Solomon: “a man who finds,” Jesus: “Keep on seeking and you shall find.” Bottom line, seek and you shall find fellas.
To all the guys out there who believe that “good things happen to those who wait” — good for you. Keep on waiting. But to all the go-getters who believe that “good things happen to those who wait, but only what’s left from those who hustle” — let us get up, get out and start seeking.
I hope that you found this post to be both enjoying and eye-opening. And if you’re boiling because of the way I interpreted the scripture, here’s one more for you:
Ecclesiastes 8:15 NLT — So I recommend having fun, because there is nothing better in this world than to eat, drink, and enjoy life. That way, they will experience some happiness along with all the hard work God gives them under the sun.
Have Fun, Smile more! PEACE OUT!
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